Part 1: Mum’s the Word
There are times where it is easy to communicate without words,
but these times are often few and far between. One example of a time where
non-verbal communication is easy is during tactical military operations. Yet
the main reason non-verbal communication is effective during this time is everyone
has been trained to be fluent in the non-verbal language of hand signals that
is used. I assumed that this symbolic language assignment would be similar to
tactical military operations and it would be easy to convey my thoughts….. I
was very wrong. I picked my wonderful wife as my partner for this assignment
and gave no warning regarding the assignment. After about a minute of trying to
use solely non-verbal communication with her as she spoke to me, she became
concerned for me and thought that I might be choking. This forced me to break character
for a few seconds and explain my lack of words before she attempted the Heimlich
maneuver on me. After I notified her of the assignment I found it very
difficult to express to her that I wanted to go out and get Chinese food for
dinner. After attempting to pretend that
I was using chopsticks for a time and her not grasping the symbolism, I rubbed
my belly and obtained a stir-fry wok cooking bowl from the kitchen. Thankfully this
worked and she grasped the idea I was attempting to convey. Even a idea as
simple as I’m hungry becomes difficult without written or spoken language. If a
culture, such as our own, met a culture that did not have a written language
most people would think that the culture without language is of lower intelligence.
Yet in this situation with a spoken language culture meeting a non-spoken
language culture the advantage in communication would go to the culture that
can best convey ideas without words if the spoken language culture has an open
mind. This is due to the non-spoken language culture being able to convey ideas
through body language and physically showing the spoken language culture the
idea they are trying to convey, such as when I showed my wife the wok. Examples
of individuals that have trouble communicating with the spoken language today
are children with severe autism. It has been proven that children with autism
who lack verbal communication skill are still having thoughts and ideas similar
to other children their age, but they have great difficulty conveying these
thoughts and ideas. Often the use of an intermediate form of communicating with
a consistent texture is helpful, such as using the keyboard of an iPad.
Part 2: Look Ma’ No Hands!
I found it quite difficult to not use my hands to speak and
not use any non-verbal cues. Honestly, I felt as though I was acting like a
robot for the full fifteen minutes (yet I know during the project I started
using a few non-verbal cues and had to stop myself). Conveying ideas was easy
without the use of non-verbal cues, but conveying the importance of the ideas
proved to be much more difficult and it became difficult for my partner in this
project to grasp the levels of importance I was attempting to convey regarding
certain subjects. This project proved to me that the use of signs in our
language is very important. Cues such as inflection and body language bear
heavily on our daily communication. The ability to read a persons body language
is somewhat universal, yet persons with autism lack the ability to read body
language. This also makes it difficult for autistic children to know when a
person is mad or unhappy. Not being able to read body language is a serious
drawback due to many parts of human communication being more than just the
words that they are saying. An environment where it could be beneficial to not
read body language is in a situation where you are meeting a new culture, this
is due to some body language being universal and yet some aspects of body
language being learned. In this situation the body language that the other
culture is presenting may not mean the same thing in your culture.